My husband isn’t the man of my dreams!

Today’s letter is from Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: Some nights I talk in my sleep. It doesn’t happen every night, and there is no rhyme or reason for it. Recently my husband told me I said something during my sleep that made him angry. He didn’t want to get into a fight, so we haven’t discussed it more. I suspect I may have been having an “adult” dream and said a name other than his.

Now he tries to stay up later than me. I think he may be trying to question me while I’m sleeping in order to get more information out of me on the subject. My doctor said there is no guarantee my response would be true or even related to the questions my husband asked me.

Should I confront my husband about whatever is bothering him, or keep stressing myself out about what I may be saying in my sleep? — NIGHT TALKER IN INDIANA

Dear Night Talker,

You ask whether you should confront your husband or stress out about what you are saying in your sleep. However, I think you should choose a different option and learn how to say specific things in your sleep. You can say things like “My husband is WAY better than your husband!” and “No way, I would never cheat on my husband!” to allay his fears. ORR, even better, you can say vague lies that make him even more concerned. “What happens on acid, stays on acid” or “No, my husband doesn’t do THAT for me.” Whichever way you choose to go with your comments will be amusing, so this is definitely what you should do.

If you insist on one of your original options, you should definitely just keep stressing about it. Conversations are hard, and avoiding confrontation is so much easier than honesty. Eventually, he will get over it or you’ll say something nice in your sleep. Either way, everything will figure it out in the end. It is important, however, that you continue to stress about it. If you don’t stress, you may not sleep well and then who knows what you’ll say while you’re asleep.

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